Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Why a Move to Bella Via would be a Move Forward


When a group of church planters say, “why move?” it's just possible that they need to.   So here are the drivers in the decision process.  This first section are the heavies—the primary and main concerns.  What follows after are other factors we have in mind.  Enjoy!

Primary Considerations

·      Reawakening a Sojourner Mentality The longer you stay in a place, there more it defines who you are.  We have been at Middleton so long, we have built it into a kind of cathedral of our own.  So it is that we would do well—if the Lord makes it possible—to put that sterile, cavernous “Middleton Definition” behind us, and become tent-dwellers again, who see physical space as temporary, and are forced to be defined by other things—soon to be clarified.  Your leaders would be more comfortable moving several times this year than staying put any longer.  Especially since everyone is aware we have been looking for quite some time, and contribution pledges were made by people which (we hope and pray) allow us to afford an alternative.    

·      Living in the Tension  Joel Barfield summed it up well as we were completing our tour of Bella Via.  He said, “It’s a solid 8.  Which is saying something; because we’ll never find a 10.”  He is so right!  As long as we are sojourners on a mission (as the church is always meant to be) we will never find the space that fits us perfectly.  It is good for us to have to make the best of things—to “make do.”  Those whose Savior died painfully for them need to learn to accept inconvenience as a given.  Not enough close parking?  We’ll make it work.  Need to spread out into an extra building?  We’ll adjust.  Healthy tension keeps us mindful of what matters most. 

·      Preparing Hearts for Deeper Changes  “An object in motion tends to stay in motion; an object at rest tends to stay at rest” (Sir Isaac Newton).   Many things need to happen this year to get us back in motion.  While “a physical move won’t change everything” (which is true: it certainly and absolutely won’t) it will make some difference, and set the stage for other, more heart-level changes.  Discussions are happening right now to more clearly define these heart-level concerns of SCCOC. 

·      Getting us Closer Together “Love grows best in little houses” (Doug Stone).  The size of—in this case—Bella Via eliminates our ability to spread out to the point that we do not grow closer.  Some of the advice in church planting lore indicates that size matters.  Being in a space too big for you is inadvisable.  On the other hand, living like a Hermit Crab, in a space just large enough to accommodate growth, while being constantly on the lookout for the next “shell,” is considered an effective strategy.    

·      Getting us in the Public Eye (and Centrally Located) We presently gather on the first day of the week in an out-of-the-way location, very far from the center of our community, and the people most prone to recognize their need for a Savior.  Bella Via, if everything works out for us to move there, places us in the heart of our community.    


Secondary Considerations

·      Still Room for Growth Bella Via will seat 72 people at tables on the lower level, and another 30+ on the upper level.  So there is room for growth from our current average Worship Gathering attendance of 55. 

·      Streamlining Set-Up  This move eliminates the need to:
o   Roll some tables out before setting up other tables
o   Manipulate heavy tables
o   Set up any tables for refreshments (there is a bar in the back)
o   Haul water from 100 yards away to the refreshment table for coffee and water
o   Bring grape juice with us each week from someone’s fridge (hard to remember at times!).   
o   Etc. 


Are we jumping from the frying pan into the fire?  Perhaps.  Won’t know till we jump.  Seth Godin wrote a blog article some time ago called “The Perfect Problem.” (Google “Seth Godin The Perfect Problem”) which ends with this statement: 

If the only alternative is a slow and painful failure, the way to get unstuck is to blow up a constraint, deal with the pain, and move forward.  Fast.  

Hopefully, we are on the verge of blowing up some constraints.  In our minds, that is an excellent idea!  

Monday, October 17, 2011

Speaking Of...


Are you, by chance, praying for SCCOC?  Because there is so much afoot that I am having to carve out time to do post this.  Speaking of which…

Two Sundays ago we tried to break 100 for the third time this year.  We failed.  And succeeded.  83 were there including three returning guest families and five first-time guests.  Two of those first-timers (a young couple) were back the following Sunday, and again yesterday.  Don't want to jinx this, but it looks like they may be getting a fresh start!  Speaking of people starting something new…

Had coffee this week with an old acquaintance and new friend who has moved back to the Northwest to serve a Christian nonprofit in the inner city.  This husband and father represents a family with “missionary hearts” who are seriously considering being another answer to our prayers for more “harvesters” (Matthew 9:37-38). Even if they don’t their connection with us will move us into service opportunities that many in our growing fellowship are very excited about.  Speaking of new Harvesters…

I bought lunch for a young couple with one child who just moved here from the Midwest, want to join our mission, and have already inquired with one of our Home Community leader couples!  Speaking of Home Communities…

Six weeks ago we started a long-overdue regular meeting of Home Community Leaders where, among other things, we prayed that God would multiply our Home Community life at SCCOC.  Yesterday we gathered again. This time a brand new Home Community was represented, consisting of three SCCOC families who are joining a Home Community for the very first time. Add our new Pre-Teen Home Community, and a sixth that has been underway for three weeks, and in six weeks, the Lord has doubled our home group life at SCCOC!  Please pray for the couples and families still not involved in such fellowship.  Speaking of people getting more involved…

One of our friends has been consistently part of a Home Group or some time now, has been at worship again recently, where she shared with me that she is finally ready to surrender her life the Lord.  Please pray this decision moves forward!!!  Speaking of people moving…

The Lord pruned (John 15:1-3) one family from us recently.   We prayed for them as a body yesterday, and we wish them well.  Speaking of fruitfulness…  

After our “Break 100” attendance two Sundays ago, we had 71 the following Sunday.  Last Sunday we didn’t even flex and there were 63 present, with at least six of our regulars out of pocket.  Our average worship attendance for the year is 53 (it was 48 last year at this time).  Our contribution (average per attendee) is $14.02 (it was $9.59 last year at this point).  How Exciting is that?!!



Tuesday, October 12, 2010

...Of Every Opportunity

This story starts last winter during the freeze when a pipe broke and
caused water damage in our garage ceiling and wall. We had no idea
how extensive the damage was, so we called the insurance company.

They referred us to STOP (Service Team Of Professionals) Disaster
Restoration Services. Eric Blackburn and his partners came and
assessed the damage. They explained everything well. The damage
wasn't that severe. We talked for a while. They told us about other
clients they had who were in hotels for the holidays because of pipes
bursting over their kitchen or over their natural gas furnaces. One
of their clients was an assisted living facility. elderly folk were
crowded together in the undamaged section of the building!

They left some high-power fans and promised to come back the next
morning. Kristen and I looked at each other and said, "why? This
damage is minimal, and it is only impacting our garage. Go help
those other people! Get to us when you can!"

They thought we were joking. Seemed only logical to us--as it would
to any of you--but it turns out they had never had a client who had
said something like that. Consequently, when they did come back,
they wanted to know about our church. They asked lots of questions. They
also opened up about their perspectives on God, church, Christians.
It was an honor to listen.

When all was said and done they gave us a really good deal to thank
us for our patience which allowed them to get to the real disasters
first. I wrote them cards on church stationary inviting them to our
Alpha Course. I never heard back, but I knew we had put in a good
word for God to some guys who had some bad church experiences in
their past

Which brings me to this morning.

Ready to drop Mary-Adele off at school and head to the Chamber of
Commerce Breakfast, I met Kristen in the upstairs hallway to say
goodbye. That is when she noticed that the washing machine had been
overflowing for about fifteen minutes. "GO!" She said. "Get the
kids to school; I know where the Shopvac is."

We ran downstairs and endured a waterfall in the garage on our way to
the van.

All day I struggled with the timing, and all I have to do, and how
this is distracting me from the tasks of ministry!

Once again, I called the guys at STOP. This time I wanted to know if
they could simply reassure me that fans would do the trick. Eric
insisted on letting me use a couple of fans and a big dehumidifier
for a couple of days at a ridiculously low price.

We caught up. They have moved to Sherwood--walking distance from our
house! Said they think of us often when they pass our street on the
way to their office in Wilsonville.

When we had a moment, I told him about our plans for October 24th--
how we are asking our friends to come "just once to check us out" that
Sunday. He said, "my job is 24/7 so I am not into long term
commitments; but I think I can do one Sunday." "That's all I'm
asking for," I assured him.

Tonight when Eric's partner Jeffrey came by with the equipment, there
was a woman with him. Turns out she is Eric's wife, April. We had a
good talk. Just as I was about to bring up my invitation to
Experience Sunday, she said, "Eric told me you invited us to church
on the 24th and we are really going to try to come. My parents will
have the boys that weekend, but I am going to talk to them about dropping
them off early so they can come to. I've been telling Eric that now
that we are settling in to a house I really want to find a
church...."

All day I had felt "off my game" and frustrated with the tasks--
important as they are--that were left undone. And all along, God was
using our washing machine to put us back in touch with Eric Blackburn
and introduce us to his wife.

It calls to mind Ephesians 5:15-17: "Be very careful, then, how you
live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity,
because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but
understand what the Lord's will is."

Can't wait to see what God has in store for the repairman from Walt's
Appliances. He'll be here Thursday morning to look at the washer....

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

James Stockdale, and what we learned from our Parenting Seminar

Dear Sherwood Community:

This post is offered as a teaching/encouragement message as we reflect upon our Parenting Seminar this past weekend.

People often asked James Stockdale how he survived as the highest-ranking prisoner at the infamous Hanoi Hilton POW camp during the Vietnam war. His reply has come to be called “The Stockdale Paradox.”

“This is a very important lesson," he told Jim Collins circa 2000. "You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”

As church planters (and if you are a member at SCCOC, then you are all church planters), we must do the same two things, and (actually) add a third and a fourth:

  1. Be realistic about the difficult and challenging realities of our situation, and at the same time…
  2. Never lose faith that we will succeed
  3. Celebrate everything we attempt (and those who made the attempt), even if it did not reap the results hoped for.
  4. Always look for the “take-aways” in every situation.
  • Take every lesson we can from everything we try
  • Trust that good came out of our efforts, even when the tangibles are not so obvious.
So let’s take these one at a time…

“Be realistic about the difficult and challenging realities of our situation.”

We advertised in a variety of ways and had about ten guest families we were expecting. The sun came out and…none of those community guests showed up. This was a bummer, no question about it.

“Never lose faith that we will succeed.”

The fact is, our church is growing! It is growing because we are real-and-loving people who love people for real! That growth is natural growth from our authentic, genuine friendships. And that is a fun and caring and personal way to grow.

“Events” like the Parenting Seminar are not really “programs” to us. They are our attempt to be in touch with yet more people whom we can befriend genuinely. And here is what we need to remember about “events:” Big events have a cumulative effect. Even though those ten families didn’t make it, they represent perhaps 100 families who are aware that they were just offered a valuable gift by this church. And they appreciate it. And they won’t forget.

“Celebrate everything we attempt (and those who made the attempt), even if it did not reap the results hoped for.”

In our growing fellowship, we celebrate that we tried, and tried creatively, and tried together to make something happen that would serve and bless and benefit people in a positive and meaningful way. God is watching, and God has “banked it.” He has blessings in store. And we have some great material available on our website for parents to download! This seminar is the gift that keeps on giving!

Some of the people who stepped up and volunteered did so for the first time! That is HUGE! Others who needed to set healthy boundaries and NOT attend, stayed away. That is healthy and I am proud of them.

Always look for the “take-aways” in every situation.
Take every lesson we can from everything we try

What did we learn? You may have a few things to add, but…

• We (those able to attend) learned a lot of great information about building healthy families!
• We learned a lot about working together to get things done—and done well!
• We learned how to use radio, and newspapers to get the word out, and found a school district very willing to assist us in doing so! Additionally, this situation got the attention to the founding editor of Christian News Northwest with an offer to help us get the word out next time!
• We learned how to put packets together for future guests. I want to explore how we can build on that foundation with a packet to hand out to guests every Sunday morning!
• We learned a lot about our unity and our comfort level. I am speaking of the fun many of you had Friday evening participating together in Susan’s exercises. I saw signs of growth here and was very encouraged!

Trust that good came out of our efforts, even when the tangibles are not so obvious.

Hey, look! We have already done this! And we will continue to do this. Keep looking and keep praying! There may be more tangibles ahead that have not yet surfaced.

Thankful for each and all of you,

Wilson

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Off The Ground!

Launch went well on January 25th! We had 90 in attendance. It was a great celebration; our Team did great; all the pistons fired. Just prior to Launch, we…

Prayed—a LOT! Wilson had set a goal of twenty-five hours on his knees in January. He made it to 17.5 hours praying for our Launch. J

Invited our friends and acquaintances personally, including everyone who attends our Financial Peace University Classes (Many of them came!)

Sent out a bulk mailer to over 8,000 addresses

Paid a Sherwood Pizza place$500.00 in exchange for their help: The first 100 pizza orders on Friday evening received a $5.00 discount, and our Launch postcard attached to the top of their box with a note telling that we paid $5.00 of their order.

Picked up the entire beverage tab at a local coffee shop Saturday the 24th, handing invitations to whoever showed interest (cost us about $500.00)

Handed out over 100 bags of microwave popcorn with our postcard attached outside a video store Saturday afternoon.

Of course, our Launch attendance included a number of family members and some Kairos people. That is normal and is to be expected. Church plants typically experience a 40-50% drop in attendance from Launch Sunday to the next Sunday. We will consider ourselves enormously blessed if we hit between 40-50 this coming Sunday.

Now we, as a former Launch Team, are working on our “Corban Covenant” as I have dubbed it (the particulars are below, in case you want to read all about it) and preparing to launch Alpha Small Group courses February 22nd.

It is a start. Not the end of the journey, but a very good start. We are thankful for God blessing us thus far!

Corban Covenant


As we anticipate Launch next weekend, we cease being a Launch Team and will need to alter our language.


So I call upon us to make a Corban Covenant.

What does that mean?

It means your Launch Team Covenant remains intact, but becomes at this point a “Missional Member” covenant instead.

It means that we all agree that that all we have contributed thus far is “A Gift Devoted to God.” When that gift is laid on the altar, it is burned up, and the heat and smoke and flame rises up to Heaven. God receives it. There is nothing left for you or I to parade around, brag about, or wear as a laurel or a badge of honor.

Making a Corban Covenant precludes (rules out) any possibility of:

Comparing the commitment and/or contribution of one to another

Inappropriate language/attitude: “other people were slackers…I did most of the heavy lifting

Having a sense of entitlement (I am owed something) connected to the fact that you are a “Charter Member,” or “have been here since before we launched,” etc. No one is owed…

A place of leadership when it comes time to appoint a church board or elder board for SCCOC

Special recognition at some future date.

Etc.

Slacking off when new people come because it is their turn to do the heavy lifting.

Let’s work together to change our language and keep our hearts in check. Only by making such a covenant can we open the circle wide enough to receive God’s blessings as a much larger community of faith.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

The Next Salvo: A Christmas Eve Encouragement

Dearest Launch Team:

(Electrical power service has been restored. So a note I wanted to send days ago I now can send you.)

It is Christmas Eve, and the snow is just beginning to show signs of…melting. J The sentiment around our neighborhood is “the novelty has worn off.” No one can remember this much snow for this many days with temperatures this low—EVER—in Western Oregon. Wow.

Guys we have been hard-at this church planting adventure for ½ a year now and I want you to know I welcome Christmas with thanksgiving in my heart for all God has done. Let me just offer a few “Fun Facts” to remind and encourage you:

We have grown closer to each other. Before a seed sprout breaks the surface, the tap root goes down. That has happened and is happening among us as we learn more and more how to love each other—how to “Do Life Better Together.”

Six of us volunteered at the Robinhood Festival, signaling to the “movers and shakers” of Sherwood that we were serious about serving this community. The relationships built through that act of service continue to bless us. Here is an example: The Executive Director of the Sherwood Chamber of Commerce called upon me to be one of seven Christmas Tree Lights judges (cruising around town, giving awards to homeowners for their decorations. Though cancelled due to the weather, it spoke volumes to me about our church’s impact up-on this community ALREADY!

Families At Play continues to connect moms and build relationships. It is a “long haul” ministry that will more and more reap a harvest for Christ. GREAT STUFF!

We now have several Community Gatherings where discipleship is taking place, and the prospect of adding several more in the next few weeks and months. In fact, the next e-mail you receive from me will be our plan for implementing ALPHA in a meaningful way to reach this community!

We have let the Spirit flow creatively and we are learning from everything we do.
I can’t wait until this Summer, for example, when free water at two Music on the Green events will morph into renting a booth for the whole seven weeks and offering free custom-labeled water and free face-painting for the kids!

Free coffee for a day was an incredible way of getting the word out in a playful way that made people feel really good! Jackie (the owner of Coffee Central) almost doubled her “beverage take” last Thursday, and—for just $435.00—we served hundreds of people! Jackie was out more outspoken than we were! Every time she told a customer their beverage was paid for, she pointed to our sign, pointed at us, told the customer we were a new church start-up in town, and told them we meet at Middleton Elementary School. She was incredible!
4,000 Sherwood homes received a door hangar inviting them to our event. Sure, the event was cancelled (along with every other school and church holiday event in the Tualatin Valley). But we still got the word out about us in a positive way!

We marched in the Christmas Parade and Hope came to church—and wants to come again!
We are offering Financial Peace University and the Clark family intends to connect with our church!

Ashley’s friend is in a Bible study with us now!

We had our first annual Christmas Party at the Barfield home and there was a great turn-out, including neighbor Becky who has been faithful to the Barfield Home Community, and Joel’s co-worker and her husband!

Our website is getting better and better and will soon have a five-minute audio presentation synced to a PowerPoint!

I am sorry. I am leaving things out. There is just so much to tell. There are so many things that every one of you has been doing—sacrifices that each of you have been making—to get us this far. Every one of you is a valuable member of this Launch Team. Every one of you is making a vital contribution.

Every one of you is a precious gift I treasure this Christmas.

It has been tough going! Like the disciples in Mark 6:45-50, the wind is against us as we attempt a midnight crossing. But Jesus is praying for us. And Jesus sees us. And Jesus comes to us. Take courage, Team! We have made more progress than we realize!

Thankful for all of you,

Wilson

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Our Hope

Sunday night was a toughy for me going in. I was kind of a ball of nerves, saddled with the weight of this entire undertaking all in one moment.

When we sat down for our ten minute prayer at 4:30 (set up begins at 4:40), I noticed Tristan was back. And that was certainly a good sign and something to celebrate! Not only was she sitting there next to her dear friend, Ashley. But she was here in time to pray with us, and then assist with the set-up. And assist she did--in a big way!

Tristan presence represented a victory. Still, I was tense, feeling the frustration of staring square in the face of a Preview Worship Gathering, and wondering if anyone else besides Tristan and the Launch Team was going to show up.

Others were tense too. Moms were tense about how kids were behaving, the tech guys were tense because something was going haywire with the computer set-up for PowerPoint.

Some now-unremembered straw broke the proverbial camel's back and I left the cafeteria, headed into the library, and made a b-line for the far corner. I sat down in one of those little chairs, and simply prayed...

God, please--tonight--send this little church plant...hope.

Then I rose, and went back to the cafeteria.

5:15. Ushers to the front door.

5:30. time to start. Tech problem almost solved. A bit of a late start.

In came Michael and his mom, Juliana, and Juliana's friend, Dana (Dana for the first time!). As always, the Helwig presence lifted our spirits. Especially with the news that Dana and Michael had been baptized that morning!

Before Chris began the first worship song, he reminded us that Sundays are not what this church does; Sundays are a celebration of how we live church throughout the week. Then he called upon us to share how God had been present and at work all week.

So, when the worship songs had been sung (and my spirits were further lifted), I followed Chris' lead. I gave a "vision peptalk." I reminded everyone what we are about, what it all means, and how everything we are doing fits together.

A visitor walked in. A woman in her twenties. This one was totally unexpected. As the evening unfolded we learned that she had been the recipient of one of our 500 candy canes (with church invitation attached) which we had handed out the previous day as we marched in the Sherwood Christmas Parade. So that was a boost. But wait! There's more!

She had walked. The distance is around two miles.

She got lost. She still persisted. She arrived right on time.

We enjoyed meeting here, enjoyed hearing her say she felt welcome and "definitely" wanted to come back again. We arranged a ride home for her.

After the trailer was all packed up, someone handed me the Friendship Communication Cards. Realizing I had not yet heard our newcomer's name, I thumbed through them and found hers.

Her name is Hope.